By: Trish B.
Oh, It's A Lady...
If you want a gentleman/husband....You must simply be a lady. In reality, as the woman we hold the power of how we are treated and the gentleman we attract. Nowadays, things just aren't the same. I grew up in the South where I picked peas and cooked with my grandmother in her kitchen, wore stockings with my all dresses, never spoke when adults were talking or I was bound to be picking my teeth up off the floor, and even a small detail I was given roses from aunt once I reached puberty and became a lady. I'm not a social scientist but I can inform you of a few useful tips in carrying yourself as a lady...for all ages.
Of course, were aware that a lady always dresses appropriately for any occasion, right? But here are a few pointers, that us Southern Bells can help with. So, ladies, you know when we meet a guy for the first time and exchange numbers, and there's a sense of anticipation while we wonder how it's going to go, or who will contact whom first? #1, You’re the prize! You wait for the guy of interest to contact you first. I know nowadays, women are even proposing to men, but this allows him to show you what type of man he is. Where did the attraction began? Don’t call him, he’ll call you. A lady knows that she deserves to be pursued and does not do so. If you are in the position that you have to initiate contact in order to communicate, then you should know that you are not dealing with a gentleman and can move on. #2. Phone calls! When in doubt, a good rule of thumb is to not to make phone calls before 9 am or after 10 pm. Time frame: NO one gets to call you on a whim just to hang out. Your time is precious and valuable, and you are clearly booked days in advance. Someone who honors your time will plan and ask to take you out with at least a 48-hour request. #3. She is gracious: She never just says, “hello” when being introduced to someone. She offers a kind greeting like, “It’s a pleasure to meet you” or “How are you this evening?” #4. Dates! She turns her phone on silent and puts it away for meals, meetings and church. Always be a good listener and conversationalist. Put your phone away and be present. A lady is not boring, rude or dismissive. #5. Manners! She says, “yes, please” or “no, thank you.” She does not say, “yep” or “nope.” She gives compliments with sincerity and only when she means it. She does not say things just to say them. Insincerity is easier to read than we think. She never arrives empty handed -- bringing a small hostess gift shows your appreciation for the preparation your host has done. #6. Extend your hand! A lady offers to help someone in need. Being a lady starts with how you treat yourself and others. She offers her seat to the elderly, disabled or a parent with small children. #7. Organized Sis! She RSVP's promptly, reads an invitation thoroughly and does not ask for exceptions. She always promptly sends a detailed thank you note to anyone who has shown her hospitality. #8. i Promise! Her word is her bond. A lady warrants a respectable reputation purely by the consistency of her word. She always keeps her promises. Now listen, I'm not saying these tips will win you a husband but it will help as you're freshly dating, and want a different approach, and your gentleman can either respect it or let a real man come through and appreciate you as a well-respected woman. But before we go....Here are key dating tips, I've put together for you. 5 KEY Dating Tips: 1. Common Sense! Ladies, you do not meet a guy anywhere. He simply comes and picks you up, especially on the first date. It may can be inconvenient, but is it your job to make dating YOU convenient? Nah. The last thing you want to be is "convenient". In some cases, if you are meeting someone in person for the first time, meeting in a neutral and public location is a smart, and a safe move. Always honor your intuition.... always. 2. Issa Curfew! Mama always said nothing good happens past 10 o’ clock and she’s pretty much right. So, set the time you need to be home in advance and let your gentleman know about it ahead of time. 3. Classy Gal! Being a lady and acting lady-like does not mean that you are entitled or snobby. Practice having a heart of gratitude and always say thank you for specific actions or generosities. 4. This is so important! Have respect for your gentleman and do not behave with entitlement by ordering the most expensive thing on the menu. If he wants to treat you to a fine bottle of wine, he can order it or offer for you to select. You want to show your appreciation and not be over the top. 5. Always be prepared! If you are going out with a gentleman, he will cover your date. However, you should always be prepared to pay if the date does not go well or he "forgets his wallet". Ladies, we DON'T have time for the shenanigans. Hope this helps! - Trish B.