Reevaluate Your Circle
Have you noticed that you thrive when you have the right people in your corner? It took a while for me to see it, but this past year, I lost people that I called friends. People I have known for years were nonexistent. It was nothing that I had done. The things that we thought we had in common wasn't enough to keep the friendship going. So here I am going through this divorce, and now my friendships are falling apart. It's safe to say I was a hot mess.
I have learned to trust the process. There is a lesson to be determined with each obstacle that we face. One day I sat down and decided to take the energy that I was using to feel sorry for myself and use it for the betterment of me. That's right, the energy I had was going toward being a mother and my purpose. Anything other than that didn't deserve my attention. I finally got to a place where I was excited about life again. I made my vision board and told my friends about all that I wanted to accomplish. You could hear a pen drop in that conversation. The excitement that I thought my friends would have for me considering what I have been through was not there. I found myself asking why but wanted to hold on to years of friendships. Well, what do you know? The energy that I said was going to the betterment of me was slowly seeping away. It was time to Reevaluate!
We all have a purpose. Sometimes, your old circle isn't meant to go with you to that new level. To everything, there is a season. There is no need to get upset or frustrated. The people who are meant to be in your life will come. Do not try and keep things that God is trying to remove. I now have a group of women around me that genuinely care about me as a person. They also care about my success. My current friendships would have never happened had I not been pushed to a place of wanting better. We are each other's biggest cheerleaders; We hold each other accountable. We do not sugar coat anything. I owe this very opportunity to them because of their encouragement.
You owe it to yourself to have a great support system. I know it is easier said than done, but having at least one person who is always going to have your best interest will make reaching your goals a little easier. Find out about the different event going on in your city. Try going to various networking events, women empowerment conferences, or even join a facebook group that fit your interests. As the old saying goes, you are the company that you keep. How is your relationship/friendships affecting your life? Are they leaving your feeling motivated, or are they draining you? Reevaluate!